« Relationships that are based only on communication distorted by the presence of a mask cannot be transformed, they remain what they have always been: pseudo-communication. A true relationship is only possible when one manages on both sides to allow oneself to oneself his feelings, to live them and to express them without fear. »

« Whether or not contact with parents is broken up is not an essential point. The process of detachment, the path from child to adult, is indeed done internally. »

« p. 77 In what follows, I will use the concept of "black pedagogy" to refer to this highly complex attitude, the context each time allowing us to understand what aspect I am putting in the foreground. The various characteristic aspects are directly apparent from the previous quotations which teach us the following principles: 1.that adults are the masters (not servants!) of the child still dependent; 2. let them slice good and evil like gods; 3.that their anger is the product of their own conflicts; 4.Let them blame the child; 5.that parents always need to be protected; 6.that the child's strong feelings for his master are a danger; 7. that the child must be "taken away from his will as soon as possible"; 8.that all this must be done very early so that the child "does not notice anything" and cannot betray the adult. One of the methods of "black pedagogy" is also to pass on false information and opinions to the child from the outset. The latter have been passed down for generations and are respectfully taken over by children, while not only are their validity unproven, but they are proven to be false. Among other erroneous opinions are the principles under which; 1.The feeling of duty begets love; 2.You can kill hate with prohibitions; 3.Parents deserve respect as parents; 4.Children do not deserve any respect; 5.Obedience makes you strong; 6.A high feeling of one's own worth is harmful; 7.A weak sense of one's own worth is harmful; 8.The marks of tenderness are harmful (mellowness); 9.il must not give in to the needs of the child; 10.la hardness and coldness are a good preparation for existence; 11.a simulated recognition is better than a sincere lack of recognition; 12.Appearance is more important than being; 13.The parents and God could not bear the slightest insult; 14.The bodies is something dirty and disgusting; 15.la vivacity of feelings is harmful; 16.Parents are beings devoid of impulses and free from guilt; 17. parents are always right. »